Pillow Talk

Dirty Beds, Not Being in The Mood and Other Big Sex Mistakes [Audio]

Noted journalist Penny Wrenn (O Magazine, Essence, Glamour, etc) called in to give us the scoop on the top sex mistakes people make. And, to give us advice on how to fix it.

Penny Wrenn on “Not Having a Sex-Friendly Bed”

Bonus Clip:

Penny Wrenn on “Only Having Sex When You’re in The Mood”


7 Smart Decisions All Kids Under 25 Should Make (Includes Free Audio Link)

Here are a few things that are always a part of my thought process. Please feel free to share this with someone you think might benefit.

1) Stay later than you have to. Whether it’s work, internship, lunch with someone important, get there on time (ten minutes before), and stay until the conversation and enthusiasm has left the room. The secret to striking up conversation with someone important is to wait until the very end, and catch up with them after the let-out.

2) Do it for free. The great result of offering your services for free, is that people find out that you exist. Prices scare customers away when they aren’t confident that you’ll deliver. Offer your services at no cost or even low cost, and if you’re really good at it, they’ll tell their friends about you.

3) Set up meetings with important people. Email someone you look up to and ask them out to lunch. They could say no, and there’s no loss in that. But, they’ll most likely say yes (and, I’m not promising you this, but, they’ll probably pay for your lunch, too.)

4) Ask for an opportunity. The golden response lies in the question you ask.

5) Wait tables. Pour wine from the guests’ right and as you go to the others at the table, move counter clockwise. You’ll also pick up great skills working at a restaurant, and you’ll learn that paying attention to detail not only gets you a major tip (on a really good night), but it also teaches you how to make people happy. That’s all it’s really about.

6) Build a clear on-line presence. splash page is all you need to begin. About.me is a great (free) platform to tell people who you are and what you do. And it’s also the best way to point people to your work.

7) Create something. If you know fashion, tell us what to wear. If you’re a great manager, tell us the secret to leading an effective team. You bake a delicious cheesecake? Teach us how to do it. Either way, we’re waiting on you.


Don’t expect another Lauryn Hill album

You grow up wishing to be a cultural phenomenon. Then, one day, it happens. Now, with just one effort, you’ve become legend and respected within your field. What’s the incentive to keep going when more money isn’t what you want?

With just one album, you’re able to:

  • sell 7 million copies
  • perform at sold out shows
  • still remain relevant
  • make guest appearances (whenever you feel like it)
  • be missed by the people

You’ve got everything an artist could dream. What’s the incentive for creating a new work that might not be as great as its predecessor?

There is none. Share your best work the first time around. It works.


Five rules for sending an email to someone important

When in doubt, press send.

  • Ask for what you want by the end of your second sentence
  • Simplify your signature
  • The subject should not be longer than six words
  • Check all of your links to make sure they work
  • Thank them for taking the time out to read your email

In our digital age, this matters.


Instead of saying you’re funny, make us laugh

Yesterday morning, while I was riding the Brooklyn-bound train, a man boarded the cart, and sat down. As the train approached his stop, he began handing out his card unsurely proclaiming “I’m a comedian. All of my stuff is on my YouTube. I’m really funny.”

While it sounds funny in retrospect, all I could think is.. if you want us to check out your YouTube page, shouldn’t you tell a joke right now… so we could see that you are, in fact, funny?

He hopped off the train never telling a joke, or even hinting at something funny. Most people laid his card (which was written on a piece of looseleaf) onto the chair beside them, leaving it behind for other New Yorkers to throw into the paper bin.

Instead of saying you pay attention to detail, prov it and never misspell prove.

Instead of saying you sing, croon a great tune and record it on camera.

Instead of saying you’re a great writer, blog about something.

Instead of saying you’re funny, make us laugh.

Show us what you’re good at. So that we can believe you. We want to.